I heard my Grandma Ginny say, so long ago, when one (believers) gets a divorce in God’s eyes we are committing adultery when we remarry over and over again. She has since gone home to be with the Lord. When she said this so many years ago I presumed she was not clear on the passage of scriptures. After all how many of us have come up with our own interpretation of scriptures. Fast forwarding to this season God drops this exact topic in my spirit and yields such clarity. I wanted to shy away as my own marriage was barely holding on by a very thin thread, virtually non-existent. Of course, as God would have it and what came to me, “why not you”.
“If a man divorces a woman and she goes and marries someone else, he will not take her back again, for that would surely corrupt the land. But you have prostituted yourself with many lovers, so why are you trying to come back to me?” says the Lord. Jeremiah 3:1
I could bore you and tell you the statistics of the divorce rate in the church today is at an all time high of roughly 75%. I could also explain another victims perspective about how she was wronged the marriage. No, that’s not what God dropped in my spirit. I know it was from Him as it was an eye opening look on His marriage. So precise and yet raw at the same time. Here is God’s take for His marriage. The marriage in God’s eyes is intended to be modeled just as Jesus and the church. Our example in the body of Christ is Jesus (groom) and the church (bride). To date Jesus has never divorced the church. No matter what offenses have been committed He has never threatened divorce. If it were so He would have turned His head away from us long ago. Because of His unconditional love for us He has never looked away. We have blended in with the worlds way of doing things when we should set the tone. You see the greater is on the inside of each and everyone of us. Many will say…as an excuse I am not Jesus as He was and is perfect. Yet another excuse which is the most commonly used, I am not suppose to be unhappy. There are a host of other reasons and only God knows the hearts of man.
If God’s intention for marriage was to not last, why is everything when in comes to God; ever lasting, eternal life, completion, or finished work. Truth is, nothing about God makes one think… stops in the middle, half, partiality, little bit! We serve a God that is whole and complete in the fullness thereof.
If you are asking, I am on my 2nd marriage or greater what do I do from this point forward? Very simply, commit your sins to the Lord and He rights your wrongs with forgiveness and in His grace. Once we are aware of our offenses and what God intended then we are accountable. It’s when we don’t commit it to the Lord and we walk around in ignorance and not deal with the very thing that keeps us bound. We are free in Jesus when we know His way for our lives. Also, once you are married God honors that. It’s when we divorce and remarry and divorce and remarry, that we have just invited curses into our lives and for generations to come.
Now, dear brothers and sisters[a]—you who are familiar with the law—don’t you know that the law applies only while a person is living? 2 For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. 3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing adultery if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries. Romans 7:1-3
For those that are divorced and not remarried. This is your opportunity to get it right wit Him. Give it to Him and leave it there. you see God never intended for you and I to walk around with blinders on. He gave us His word as a road map on how we are to move in the earth.
Saving the best for last…For those who are die hards on the word of God and “know” His word, you will love this part. It is a fact, Moses gave a legal out for Christians to get a divorce. The small piece that most of us miss Moses gave a way out of marriage in his own understanding. Ultimately, it was because of the children of Israel’s hardened hearts. It was not authorized by God it was only due to the pressure Moses received from the people. You see what was found to be true back then 2000+ years ago, yet still true today, when man’s heart is hardened there is only one being that changes that fact as God chastens man. No matter how much man tries there is only one heart changer, that’s God. Where we miss the mark as believers, we fail to wait on God’s perfect will for our lives. You see microwaves did not exist back then, but man still had no desire to wait on God. Yet God waits on us no matter how long it takes to turn it around and never complains, never divorces us, nor never turns away from us.
3 Jesus answered them with a question: “What did Moses say in the law about divorce?”
4 “Well, he permitted it,” they replied. “He said a man can give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away.”[a]
5 But Jesus responded, “He wrote this commandment only as a concession to your hard hearts. 6 But ‘God made them male and female’[b] from the beginning of creation. 7 ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife,[c] 8 and the two are united into one.’[d] Since they are no longer two but one, 9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. 11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” Mark 10:2-12 nlt.
If you are saying how do I know these things, that’s easy God waited on me to turn it around. Now, I wait on Him and trust in Him until He fixes it…whatever it is, it will be better than ever before…His promise to me and anyone that will come around to His way. It’s your choice.